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staying true to you


A heart to heart about staying true to yourself in being surrounded by masses.
No matter where you are in your life, you will constantly be surrounded by people who make you question yourself. Whether you are in the fashion industry, in the business world, or even still at school, it is hard to not compare yourself to others and conform just to fit in. The fact of the matter is that it is harder to stay true to yourself than to conform, and this is what I've learned over the years after feeling constantly left out of things. Though it may seem like the opposite on my social media, I am really not one to like attention on me. Events still make me jittery, meeting new people still makes me shy. Everyone posts where they are going, who they are with, what they are doing. It is hard, especially as an introvert, to always feel as if you are not doing the right thing. This may seem like a ramble, mostly because it is one, but I just wanted to have a heart to heart because if you are feeling this way, you are not alone. Just in this couple of months alone I have learned so much about who I want to be and how I want to make others feel.

It is so important that you surround yourself with people that keep you grounded. I've found that people that don't work in the same industry as you are amazing to go to, because they almost take you out of your own situation. They are not so self-consumed with the same things you may be obsessing over. People that are different from you make you take a step back and realize there is more to life than what you are focusing on right now. In contrast to that, making friends that are in the same industry as you can be valuable to. It is all about picking the right people who are genuine and who you connect to. I made a new friend, who is a blogger as well, and she is amazingly successful. We had lunch and she said to me, "you need to pick what will make you happy in that moment. Life is not all about these events, if you don't want to go, then don't go! Have a day to yourself with your man." And I left that meeting feel so inspired because she was so right. If I'm dreading something, why go? What real impact will it have? I don't have a post to show where I'm going? If anything it will make me feel happier, choosing the thing I really want to do. I wish that whole conversation was a podcast, because it really opened my eyes. She was right. And immediately when I see her content, I don't feel as if she is trying to compete. She is living her life, sharing snippets of what make her happy, and I can only wish to do the same.

Often it is hard to take ourselves out of situations. As social media grows larger, our need for taking ourselves out of it should grow larger, too. Instead of competing, we need to support. If you find a person not supporting, cut them out, you don't need them. I am writing this on International Women's Day, so it feels very right to be talking about this. It is 2018, girls need to support each other. It is when you get lost in thinking everything is a competition that you truly lose yourself. I think I almost headed down that path, but now I see that you are so much stronger when you have other people by your side, supporting each other and making one another happy. The only person that can lose yourself, at the end of the day, is you. Establish strong roots, surround yourself by people who make you a better person, not a worse one. And, I know I always say this, but cut yourself some slack! We do not have to be successful by 30. This idea has been engrained in our minds now, I think because of social media and all the articles we read every day. Set your own pace, find true friends, and support, support, support. 

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  1. This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Thanks Christie <3

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  2. Such a lovely read and concept. I can totally relate as an introvert myself that people think I'm bitchy or too good to go somewhere when the reality is, sometimes the thought of going anywhere is just too overwhelming to me. I'm getting better as I get older in saying "no thank you, I would really just like to stay in tonight" and not worry about others judging me for that.
    I stand by you Christie and support your values, always!

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    1. Right right! As you get older I think you weed through the things that don't mean anything and instead really try to decide what events you should go to, aka the events that support friends or family or someone close to you. I mean I totally love going to events but if it's making us sad or uncomfortable to go, then we need to take it as a sign! Thank you so much! xx

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  3. So raw, love this! Thank you for sharing :)

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    StephC

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  4. It’s exactly how i’m feeling these days. I want my social media to reflect my happy moments but sometimes it just becomes a tool making me nervous because I don’t want to share what everybody else’s sharing. At the end of the day i feel like i’m not good enough because of it. Thank you for sharing <3

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    1. Don't feel this way! You are good enough. Again, just post things that make YOU happy, and if you are getting too attached to it, then give yourself time to breathe. Thanks so much, love you!

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  5. As an introvert myself this is very recognisaeble...good job explaining! Especially the last thing you day is truth... you can become succesfull anytime in life!

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  6. Thank you so much for this. I am an introvert as well and I'm happy you mentioned that in this post. I could really connect with this. As an emerging blogger (or shall I say, an extreme newbie) I'm trying to connect with others even though it's been hard because I am shy. I try to be as supportive as I can to everyone I care about and look up to. And it's frustrated not getting that support back. I question why I continue to try, as if I have the power to change anything. I have to remember that when I close a door, I can open another. Support is all I want and I won't settle for anything less. Because I, and everyone, doesn't deserve to waste their time on people who don't make them grow and make them feel proud of themselves. This is my rant-y response but I just wanted to share all this because this post brought all this out.

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